It is the time of year when everyone asks if you have any resolutions. In the past, I have been more into writing a list of goals (which I invariably fail to achieve) than in setting resolutions, but decided I would start this year with one. I am resolved to stop complaining.
I don't know if I complain more than average, or if people consider me a complainer, but too often I hear myself letting out a little moan, and I've got three reasons it is time to stop.
1. I have nothing to complain about. Currently, I have a nice house, a healthy family, enough money that I don't have to worry about it day-to-day, professional success, etc. The more good that is in my life, the more any complaint I could make just sounds petty.
2. There is almost nothing as boring as listening to someone complain. To modify a famous phrase, 'Better to keep your mouth shut and be thought boring than to open your mouth and prove it.'
3. The older I get, the more convinced I am that we construct a large portion of our own reality with our thoughts and speech. Thus, the more I complain, the more real I make those complaints. Why would I want to do that? Better to talk about my great wife, great kids, great job, etc.
I am sure I will fail at this resolution from time to time. Perhaps I will fail every day, but, I think as long as I keep it in mind, I will at least complain less, and that will be victory enough.
Positivity. Love it.
ReplyDeletenothing wrong with venting every once in awhile but, agreed some folks take it way to far. And I am lucky to have a family that supports me and is for the most part doing well in their own right. So Hears to a new and hopefully better year then last.
ReplyDeleteA very good resolution positivity breeds more positivity and more success😀
ReplyDeleteA worthy resolution indeed, though I'm not so sure about no. 2 - people do enjoy reading a good rant, particularly if it aligns with their own views. Which then leads into no. 3...
ReplyDeleteIndeed, the world is a much better place when the privileged recognise that privilege and look to those without.